Saturday, March 28, 2009
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
My dad came across one and offered it to us. All of the cats really liked it and took turns laying in it.
Monday, March 23, 2009
Positive Adoption Language
The way we talk—and the words we choose—say a lot about what we think and value. When we use
positive adoption language, we say that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is. Both are
important, but one is not more important than the other.
Choose the following positive adoption language instead of the negative talk that helps perpetuate the myth that adop-
tion is second best. By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of innuendo.
Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings. When a TV movie talks about a "custody battle" between "real
parents" and "other parents," society gets the wrong impression that only birthparents are real parents and that adoptive
parents aren’t real parents. Members of society may also wrongly conclude that all adoptions are "battles."
Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these. By using positive adoption language, we
educate others about adoption. We choose emotionally "correct" words over emotionally-laden words. We speak and write
in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Friday, March 20, 2009
And on the adoption front, we have been presented to a few potential birthmoms these past few weeks, which means that an agency has a situation, and they ask us if it is one we are interested in. If we are, they show our profile to the potential birthmom. Our profile has information about us, and a few pictures. The potential birthmom looks at all the profiles she is given and can pick one to be the potential adoptive parents.
I say potential because nothing is certain in an adoption until all the legal paperwork is filed. Even if we become matched with a birthmom, she can still decide to parent her baby until she signs the paperwork that terminates her parental rights to the child. Depending on the state the baby comes from, this could mean that we could bring a baby home as temporary guardians and then have to return the baby to its mother if she decides to parent. While this can be a sad situation, we know that it is in the best interests of everyone involved and that clearly would not be the baby we are meant to have.
We'll try to keep answering everyone's questions as we get them to keep everyone on the same page as we go on this journey to bringing our baby home.